Here we are in a one day heat wave and my ability to write insightful original material seems to be melting along with everything else. So, I'm going to brazenly copy an idea I read on another blog (but sadly don't remember and can't credit) and do a "Link Love Friday." MidlifeBloggers.com was recently started by blogger byjane, when she noticed that most women-oriented blog communities are focused on younger women, not those in midlife. Those of us who commented in agreement are now the nucleus of this group blog. The posts are interesting and fun, such as Menopause Has Stolen My Brain!, by Jan's Sushi Bar.
For a more serious look at the challenges of striving for work/life balance when your family includes members with disabilities, read babs post "Approaching equilibrium" in her Awalkabout's weblog. The comments alone with reassuring you that you are not alone. At the end of the article is a link to an article in the Seattle Post-Intelligencier about the struggles of one family affected by autism.
Finally, through that article I came across a blog for "alternative' special needs families, called My Baby Rides the Short Bus. The blog is an "information page for upcoming anthology written by parents of children with 'special needs' who identify outside of the mainstream" The authors are also compiling a resource guide and are looking for "favorite resources that help to empower us and treat us respectfully as parents/caregivers."
The My Baby Rides the Short Bus blog got me thinking about how the concepts of "mainstream" and "marginalization" are so subjective. Just the words bring back ghosts of sociology past. My family is mainstream, I guess, since we live in the burbs, are a "typical" nuclear family, and we are not poor. Mmn - but are we marginalized by definition because we have a child with special needs? And am I out of the mainstream because I am a midlife mom?
Whew - too much social analysis on a hot day. But I am curious what you readers think - are we "marginalized" or not? And is having a child with special needs enough of a link to forge friendships with parents with values and world views different from your own? Let me know what you think. I'm off to guzzle some iced tea. Have a great week-end, all.
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